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Thursday, April 20, 2017

KNOWN

Spring brings quantities of beautiful changes.

In our home, we've been working the last several weeks to finish up our year's school work. It's so liberating to finally close the book, "Ah, it's completed!"
But unlike our public schooling counterparts, we jumped right into the next tier of work the day following our liberation. And what's more, we're excited and jazzed about new school books and new rhythms of course work (we added a few more subjects - that are very interesting, so far).
The only trouble is that my geography and science which I was planning to utilize once or twice a week are too cool for school, and the little scholars have wanted them everyday instead. I guess we'll finish more quickly than anticipated!

Another somewhat interesting change is that I received a new book recently from bloggingforbooks.com. Honestly, I'd been watching their titles for a few months, and hadn't seen anything that I was interested in enough to want to invest my TIME in reading.
KNOWN: Finding Deep Friendships in a Shallow World by Dick and Ruth Foth....this one I figured was right up my ally. {Especially as my friends hear me discuss investing in authentic relationships pretty often these days!}

"Friendship is born when one person says to another: 'What! you too? I thought I was the only one.' "-C.S. Lewis

This quotation is the start of one of that latter chapters in the book, but I feel like in essence it sums it up thoroughly. If you want to build friendships to have invest yourself in both sharing your story and listening to others tell theirs. It takes work. Posting a meme on facebook about something totally "relatable" doesn't build a friendship, nor does give said post a "like" count.

Being present totally trumps perfecting our social media personas.
That said, a number of my friends and I pretty much only text. It's imperfect for sure, but in this phase of #momlife and it's not always feasible to have a real phone conversation (or in person). My sister-in-law can certainly vouch for the fact that sometimes we're on the phone but spend much more time instructing our kids or managing the chaos at our feet than actually talking to each other. But nevertheless, putting forth that effort to call makes a big difference...it's what the author calls "the chase", the pursuit of the relationship - evidence that you really care about a person, which affirms the other.

In terms of Flow - this book seemed like some more editing might be needed. The feeling is kind of foggy/hazy on the whole. Some of the stories included felt like they'd just been pasted there for lack of a better place to put them without connective tissue to strengthen the point they were trying to address. Then again, it could totally be my brain that's foggy. I wouldn't call this a life-changer, but I would say it's an encouraging read to those young adults who are trying to figure out to to develop intentional deep relationships, rather than the status quo "friend" on facebook.

I received this book from bloggingforbooks.com in exchange for this review.

Friday, February 24, 2017

Enjoying the Everyday

The morning sun glistened in rainbows around my house this morning.
{We keep a prism in the window and often have a couple rainbows, but they seemed to be scattered further and wider than usual. }

It was a morning sun that made me throw all the curtains open and bathe the house in fresh, almost-spring rays.

I relish days like today. An unusually warm February day, full to the brim of things worth noticing for their beauty.

The children painted today. I kind of hate the prep & clean up of painting because that usually takes much longer than the children actually paint. But today I let them. Elijah sat in his high chair with his blue paint smeared across his belly (I figured shirtless was the easiest method for him).  His bellybutton is still blue-tinged. And I just love it. He smiled happily all the while. The girls made delightful little pictures that are becoming more intentional and less blotches of muddied colors.

A few cheerful phone calls. A trip to the library. Playing Little House on the Prairie at the park (but we play it most everyday at home too). I'm always "Miss Beagle" and Ma, per Hattie. Adele is either John or SonnyBoy and Elijah is Baby Charles. Baby Charles has had the measles several times recently.

 I enjoy their creative play. I relish this time, this stage of life, where PLAY ranks much higher than academics.

Adele dreams of going on a Grandpa-Date to the hardwork (hardware) store to buy a hammer for her birthday. After which, Emery is supposed to promptly begin building the children a playset for the back yard.

And Elijah - he's a car man. Cars, trucks, tractors are all an important and well-loved part of his life. My boy sleeps with a matchbox car in each hand most nights. He's inherited this love from his father and grandfather. He drives his cars slowly and methodically. There are no wrecks and little speeding at this stage of the game, but their HIS cars and he enjoys them so.

We've done chores too, of course. For this is a normal day. Laundry and dishes and sweeping most of the house have been on the agenda. But finding the smiles, the moments when your heart wants to burst with love, the rays of sunshine and rainbows...they make the mundane magical.