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Thursday, April 20, 2017

KNOWN

Spring brings quantities of beautiful changes.

In our home, we've been working the last several weeks to finish up our year's school work. It's so liberating to finally close the book, "Ah, it's completed!"
But unlike our public schooling counterparts, we jumped right into the next tier of work the day following our liberation. And what's more, we're excited and jazzed about new school books and new rhythms of course work (we added a few more subjects - that are very interesting, so far).
The only trouble is that my geography and science which I was planning to utilize once or twice a week are too cool for school, and the little scholars have wanted them everyday instead. I guess we'll finish more quickly than anticipated!

Another somewhat interesting change is that I received a new book recently from bloggingforbooks.com. Honestly, I'd been watching their titles for a few months, and hadn't seen anything that I was interested in enough to want to invest my TIME in reading.
KNOWN: Finding Deep Friendships in a Shallow World by Dick and Ruth Foth....this one I figured was right up my ally. {Especially as my friends hear me discuss investing in authentic relationships pretty often these days!}

"Friendship is born when one person says to another: 'What! you too? I thought I was the only one.' "-C.S. Lewis

This quotation is the start of one of that latter chapters in the book, but I feel like in essence it sums it up thoroughly. If you want to build friendships to have invest yourself in both sharing your story and listening to others tell theirs. It takes work. Posting a meme on facebook about something totally "relatable" doesn't build a friendship, nor does give said post a "like" count.

Being present totally trumps perfecting our social media personas.
That said, a number of my friends and I pretty much only text. It's imperfect for sure, but in this phase of #momlife and it's not always feasible to have a real phone conversation (or in person). My sister-in-law can certainly vouch for the fact that sometimes we're on the phone but spend much more time instructing our kids or managing the chaos at our feet than actually talking to each other. But nevertheless, putting forth that effort to call makes a big difference...it's what the author calls "the chase", the pursuit of the relationship - evidence that you really care about a person, which affirms the other.

In terms of Flow - this book seemed like some more editing might be needed. The feeling is kind of foggy/hazy on the whole. Some of the stories included felt like they'd just been pasted there for lack of a better place to put them without connective tissue to strengthen the point they were trying to address. Then again, it could totally be my brain that's foggy. I wouldn't call this a life-changer, but I would say it's an encouraging read to those young adults who are trying to figure out to to develop intentional deep relationships, rather than the status quo "friend" on facebook.

I received this book from bloggingforbooks.com in exchange for this review.